On Monday evenings, sometime in the 6 to 7 o'clock hour, I make a phone call to my 5 year old daughter, who lives in California with her mom. When she first moved to California in early 2013, she was just shy of 2 and a half years old. My daily interactions with her up to that point had always been in person, so making phone calls was new and as time went on, became discouraging. I've no business getting into "why", but it's difficult to keep a youngster on the phone for long, no matter who they are. In October of 2013, I made the last phone call to her for about 18 months.
In May of this year, I started up the phone calls again. I'm only allowed to call on Monday nights and some weeks she wants to talk for 10 minutes, other weeks, she stays on the phone for 30 and I end up being the one to get off the phone first. Since I don't have my son on Monday evenings, their relationship has been difficult to cultivate. Despite their 7 year age difference, the bond the two of them share is really special. They only see each other once a year now, but when they are together, their 2.5 years of living together was enough to create a lifetime bond of friendship that picks up right where it left off the year before. A few times this summer, I had Christian when I'd call Nora and it was always so special to just listen to them chatting on the phone, 2 states apart, but breaking down those distances with their childlike conversation.
Tonight, as I made my call to Nora, I'd texted Christian earlier to ask if he wanted me to include him in my call, but his phone had died. In my heart, I was pretty bummed, because I really wanted them to have a chance to talk. Nora just turned 5 last week and I wasn't able to make it down to California due to financial reasons, so the idea of having all of us on the phone together secretly made my heart burst. About 10 minutes into my call with Nora, Christian texted me. "Are you still on the phone with Nora, Dad?"
Immediately, I added him to the call and then listened for the next 15 minutes as they had a chance to talk and share Halloween stories and memories from each of their 5th birthdays. (They both went to Disneyland on their 5th!) Life now, is so much different than I ever imagined it would be and I am guessing that in another few years it'll be even more different, but I've learned that the most important things are the littlest things. Just having them on the phone together might not seem like much, but to me, it made my heart jump for joy. I've said it before and I'll say it again. Never take for granted the days you've got with the ones you love. #UntilWeMeetAgainProject Day 58.